Your wedding day should be a day of bliss and happiness! The day is probably something you’ve been looking forward to since your childhood. However, it can also be a source of incredible stress, turmoil, and sometimes even hurt feelings.
Many people in your life will be excited and proud to celebrate your love with your soon-to-be spouse. However, there may be some roadblocks in navigating the path to “I do”. While I hope you never encounter any of these questions, I figured I’d go over the top 5 tough wedding questions my couples have been asked. I’ve also included how to answer them respectfully, while also respecting yourself in the process!
Am I invited?
Ouch. It’s never fun “uninviting” (or rather, not inviting) a guest you really, truly would love to have at your wedding. That said, weddings are expensive! It is hard to invite all of your friends and family. Sometimes, depending on budget or venue capacity (especially with Covid still hanging around!), you do need to have some boundaries with whom you invite.
An easy answer to this (if you aren’t able to say “of course!”) is to let them know that you are choosing to keep the guest list small because of budget or venue size. Simply let them know you’d love to have them. Then explain that due to the venue or budget, you’re not able to invite everyone. Something like “We really wish we could invite everyone we want, but we just can’t!”
What’s your budget/how much are you spending?
Going right into the next question, how much you are spending on the wedding is simply no one’s business. Your partner, those who are helping assist with the budget, and your wedding coordinator/planner are the only ones who need to know your budget! If someone asks – just nip this in the bud. Tell them you’re not comfortable divulging this information and then get back to happier topics. Something like “Way too much!! It’s amazing how expensive weddings are!” should help with that!!
Kids or no kids?
Similar to the “am I invited?” conversation, this question is an easy answer depending on your guest list. If you’ve decided to keep the celebration as an adults-only affair – let the inquirer know that you feel it would be best to keep the celebration for adults. If you are including children, determine if you will only be including those children that are family — for example, nieces and nephews. Or share that children over the age of xx are included. A good response could be — “If we let everyone bring their children, our guest count could almost double!” If you feel like getting more specific, you can always offer up that due to budget constraints, venue capacity, or any other reasoning – your choice has been made.
How’s the wedding planning going?
This question could be harmless when asked by a close friend or relative, but during times of relaxation and unwinding, it tends to be a little stress-provoking. While you may want to gush about all of the lovely details of your day, if you prefer to tune out the wedding chat, simply let your friend know that you’re loving the process but it’s stressful and you’d prefer to spend the time unwinding without the details for the time being.
Can I DIY a wedding item for you?
From sweet aunts and uncles to loving future mothers-in-law, it seems everyone wants to share in a piece of your day. It’s super kind and thoughtful that your relatives and friends want to participate in the planning process, but this is a hard ask. If you have a wedding professional taking care of that task for you, say something like “Thank you so much for your generous offer! We actually have that covered already.” If they still want to do something and it’s something you really could use help with, then kindly accept their help! Or perhaps they can DIY parts of your wedding-related celebrations such as engagement parties, bachelor and bachelorette décor, or even your wedding shower or rehearsal dinner.
I know this is not the friendliest topic – but planning a wedding is tough! Whether it’s a guest needing another plus one (the answer is no) or just the pressure of divulging every detail, I hope these questions help!
If you need help coming up with the perfect responses, or simply battling the incoming DIY projects – give me a call! I’m sure we can set up a consultation and customize the perfect response.
Lexi
(Photos by Edward Underwood Photography)
